Every character I write has flaws. That’s what makes them sympathetic and likeable. Readers can relate to them. Like my characters, I have flaws. I don’t think I was ever a bad person, but everyone has room for improvement. Below are the top five ways I think being a writer has made me a better person.
I am much more patient. I used to walk up and down escalators. If an elevator door didn’t open within seconds after I pushed the button, I was flying up the stairs. When I first started querying agents, I was camped out at the mailbox waiting for their responses a week later. I didn’t realize I would likely be waiting months or even two years for replies. Being in a holding pattern merely made me more impatient. I learned that the best thing to do was to move forward with the next project and query more than ten agents at a time. I still find myself occasionally walking up or down an escalator rather than enjoying the ride, but I’m much better.
I am less of a control freak. I’ve learned to let go, at least somewhat, of what isn’t in my control. I can’t control when, or even if, agents or editors respond to my query letters. If they’ll love my book and want to represent or sell it. If I’ll sell my next book. Luckily, since I’ve started writing there are a lot more publishing options. I’ve learned to focus on two things that are in my control: writing the best book I can and submitting it.
I am more supportive. I realize how difficult it is to promote yourself or a small business. It takes a lot of time and effort to gain a following on Facebook, Twitter, or Goodreads. It only takes a moment to like a Facebook fan page, vote for a friend’s baby in the Gerber baby contest, or comment on a blog. Half the time, I don’t even know the person I’m helping out and he or she is a friend of a Facebook friend. The person might not even be a writer, but maybe a photographer, realtor, or massage therapist. I truly believe in karma and hope that others are doing the same for me.
I have much thicker, yet more sensitive skin. When I first entered writing contests, I received mainly constructive feedback from supportive judges. However, I had my share of not-so-nice judges who ripped my work to shreds and had me questioning my talent. Besides giving me thicker skin, one thing I learned from these judges was that I didn’t want to be like them. I didn’t want to be responsible for a person having a meltdown or giving up on writing. So when I started judging contests, I made sure that I always made positive, constructive comments and I never gave out harsh scores. I once gave a newbie writer a lot of feedback and encouragement, along with an average score. She sent me a thank you note and said that the other judges’ comments had made her cry, but then she read mine and I restored her faith in her writing. I was happy I made a positive impact on that writer’s contest experience.
I am more gracious. I don’t take anyone’s time or help for granted, be it a contest judge, an agent, an editor, a writer, a friend, or a family member. I’ve received a lot of assistance on my road to publication and would like to say THANK YOU to everyone who has played a role in helping me achieve my goal!
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About the Author:
When Eliza isn’t traveling for her job as an event planner, or tracing her ancestry roots through Ireland, she’s at home in Milwaukee working on her next novel, bouncing ideas off her husband Mark, and her cats Quigley and Frankie.
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When a series of failed relationships and business ventures have Monica Jackson doubting her self-worth, she turns to spell casting to attract positive energy and the opportunities needed to achieve her goals. But can Monica’s belief in spells restore her belief in herself?
Monica creates a spell to find her soul mate, and one to ensure the success of her new romantic event planning company, Enhance Your Romance. Monica is confident she has found her niche until divorce lawyer Reed Walker opens a practice next door to her office. The anti-marriage slogan plastered on his office window, and his down-on-love clients, quickly prove detrimental to Monica’s business. When his arrival appears to trigger a string of bad luck, Monica fears one of her spells sent negative energy into the universe and it has returned to her threefold. Although Reed is beyond sexy, and she admires his self-confidence, she’ll do whatever it takes to get the universe back on her side, and Reed out of her life. No way is she losing another business.
Reed finds himself attracted to Monica’s beauty and her optimism. His job and his parents’ divorce have made him a pessimist, especially when it comes to love. However, he soon finds that Monica’s pro-love attitude is rubbing off on him, causing him to lose his edge. If Reed doesn’t distance himself from Monica, he’ll likely destroy his reputation as a pit bull divorce lawyer.
Can Monica and Reed look past what they might be losing to realize the love they have found?